I’d been without internet access for what seemed like forever but in real terms it was just over a week but in a land so clearly dominated by mr lupus that week felt like a life time and its amazing how isolated and out of touch you feel without internet access. What did we do before it was invented? I don’t know about you but I can’t remember that far.
I know that there are still people who have not yet welcomed this change in the way we communicate and access information but even though they may not personally have embraced it, the profound affect and change in their lives is clearly visible. I must admit I am still amazed that there are people out there without email. So what is it about this change thing that seems to affect us whether we want it to or not? Why is it that some of us really embrace change while the rest of us wait for it to be enforced?
Change is, according to the dictionary, “a transformation or transition from one state, condition, or phase to another” it is a natural order of things and we have all experienced it didn’t we first start out as babies; grow to toddlers, teenagers and eventually adults? We’ve survived the process, we can testify to that and many of us also have the battle scars to prove it so why not embrace the inevitable?
I realize I fall into the group of people that although I know change is coming or indeed that it is here, I bury my head and pretend and create an alternative reality and it has nothing to do with the hours of watching brain numbing TV. In fact I would like to report that I am working on my addiction, we are down to a maximum of two episodes of Diagnosis Murder per day instead of the previous five episodes. I only have to look at the situation for the last few months (this change probably started further back than that but the manifestation I could not ignore began on 19th May) the almost daily presence of mr lupus has enforced a change I was neither prepared for nor willing to accept. I didn’t understand it and was unwilling to acknowledge that it meant real changes in my life.
Don’t get me wrong I make all the right noises, I know the right things to say, but my internal refusal to let go of the familiar means that although change is happening, I choose to fight it. Well I’m a fighter and isn’t that what fighters do? Wrong! Have you read the Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield? It talks about states of being and the energy associated with them and suggests that you don’t fight like with like. If someone is the aggressor by also being the aggressor you don’t actually defuse the situation. In order to ‘win’ you need to choose other tactics. My trying to fight mr lupus head on is not the answer and it’s certainly not working effectively. The past 15 weeks are clear evidence of that.
So what have I learnt? Change is inevitable and a natural part of the process of life and unless you really can stop or reverse it, you really need to learn how to live with it and make it work for you. Change is not always a bad thing, I have learnt so much about people and about myself in the last 15 weeks and whilst the appearance of mr lupus may have changed my life in ways that I am unhappy about in order to really move forward I need to acknowledge it and embrace it because even with the elimination of mr lupus from my life my life will never be the same again…
Thought for the day
Remember change is an important part of your life. Are you embracing it?
He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery. ~Harold Wilson