I bet you probably thought I’d stopped laughing with mr lupus. To an extent you are right. I think I hit a brick wall and no longer wanted to be optimistic about my condition and I believed I had earned the right to feel that way. I was sick and tired of feeling sick and tired and I couldn’t see a way through the fog.
Then it struck me what if I could use the lessons I had already learnt and was continuing to learn (people kept telling me that they admired me for the way I was handling things) to get me through those lupus challenges but also to help others to do the same.
Now that was not only an interesting thought but also a challenging one, which led me on an interesting voyage of discovery and to ask myself the following question: “How do you use what is currently available to you for the benefit of yourself and others?” This is probably a question that we all can ask ourselves. In spite of the challenges and problems what do we have at our disposal that can help us to make the most of the journey we are on?
I have a friend who likes baking cakes and has developed a sideline where she makes birthday and celebration cakes for the pupils at her children’s school. Can she do this all the time, of course not, she has lupus, but she can do it often enough to earn some money but more importantly to feel that there is a sense of purpose to her life and her daily routine. And the lupus challenges become points between the times she is doing what she loves.
Am I making sense? Do you have something you like to do?
In my search for knowledge or probably wisdom I came across a woman by the name of Byron Katie, who in her one words, was for 10 years spiralling down into paranoia, rage, self-loathing, and constant thoughts of suicide and for the last two years was often unable to leave her bedroom. Then, one morning out of the blue she had the answer. She suddenly realized that she was not her story, and that everything she was going through was originating in her mind and when she changed her thoughts things were better. She came up with something called ‘The Work’.
Since that day, she is travelling the world to bring this awareness to as many people as she can. She has quite literally helped thousands of people across the globe, directly and indirectly through books, videos and workshops.
‘The work’ is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches you to identify and question the thoughts that cause all the suffering in the world. It’s a way to understand what’s hurting you, and to address the cause of your problems with clarity. Sounds simple doesn’t it? I haven’t tried it yet but that’s my next challenge.
But back to my original point, if after 10 years Byron Katie could find something powerful from her pain and suffering that not only helped herself but has also gone on to help countless others what is stopping us? Okay we may not end up developing a global movement but I am sure we can make a difference, even if it is in a small way, in our worlds.
I am setting myself a challenge to discover what I have in my hand that could be beneficial and fun.
Watch this space, I might just discover something that can help you too!