About Carole

I am a fun loving woman of a certain age who believes that living with lupus is more than just about symptoms, medications and treatment. Laughter and a positive mental attitude are the essential nutrients in my daily diet and I just want to share a word or two to contribute to yours. And I am a certified Laughter Leader!

It’s lupus Awareness month 10 things I need you to be aware of.

lupus awareness month

But for me I am already aware. I often wonder what to do at times like this. What do I want people to be aware of? and more importantly what do I want them to do? Every year this time comes around I feel stumped. I don’t want to just let you know that lupus [...]

Strong Black Woman/Superwoman

Super woman

Researchers have suggested that health disparities in African American women, including adverse birth outcomes, lupus, obesity, and untreated depression, can be explained by stress and coping. The Strong Black Woman/Superwoman role has been highlighted as a phenomenon influencing African American women’s experiences and reports of stress. A recent study explores the concept. Read more here

Weekend food for thought!

Light in the fog

I discovered that accepting something is not the same as liking something. I know that should have already been obvious but it took me a while to get it. I have been unwilling to accept my lot because somewhere in the back of my mind I harboured the misguided thought that if I accepted my [...]

The only martyrs are dead ones!

When your GP asks if you want an ambulance say yes!

Sometimes it doesn’t help to be a martyr! I thought I’d had it sorted out. Instead of my usual it will pass approach to health and healing I chose to go to the doctor as soon as I was aware that there was something wrong. Great I thought no hospital for me. My GP was [...]

Can you get addicted?

Light in the fog

Got a call from my friend’s daughter recently to come quick mum (who has been my casualty buddy for the last four years) not doing good. I rushed out of the house with just my keys and whatever change I had in my pocket. I held her as she cried and waited as the paramedics [...]

How to Help a Friend Who Has An Invisible Illness

How to help a friend with an invisible illness

My friend asked me recently how can she help? good question but I didn’t have a clue how to answer her. Did I need money, a cooked meal, someone to hold my hand at my next hospital appointment, a miracle.. I searched the corridors of my mind, but they were still a bit foggy, and [...]

#HAWMC Day 15: Writing in style


Do you often do things on auto pilot and only become conscious about it when questioned. I do that sometimes when driving and often get way down a particular road before realising I wasn’t going there today! I call this unconscious living which we need to do for some things but no so much for [...]

My Dream Day

My beautiful picture

Interesting that my post should be titled my dream day as the amount of sleep I have been doing in the last few days would suggest that I have been having plenty of those, but of course that is not what we mean here. My dream day would begin with a view of the sunrise [...]

10 things I couldn’t live without


Sometimes in relationships one person says to another I just can’t live without you but as relationships often lead to break ups we know that this is not always true but there are certain things that make our lives complete that contribute to the pep in our step and the joy in our day. I [...]

It’s my stream of consciousness day!


The title alone seems like a contradiction in terms. I know that I am awake but it all feels blurred and muddled so I am unsure as to what is going to come out next. My challenge today is to just write, don’t stop, don’t edit, post, so I am looking forward to finding out [...]